abuse / trauma

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The Great Sex Rescue

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The Great Sex Rescue

I’ve seen many clients find healing through the corrective messages in this book. There were even misbeliefs and misconceptions I grew up believing that made me stop in my tracks when reading. ⁣
Sheila, Rebecca, & Joanna’s research of over 20,000 women backs up their theory that the evangelical church has, with no intention to harm, spread some harmful messages about sexuality over time. Especially in best-selling Christian books.
⁣The Great Sex Rescue highlights and refutes harmful messages while underscoring a healthy, sacred, biblical sexuality. ⁣I couldn’t recommend this book more! ⁣

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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

I have not professionally vetted this book yet but it’s on my list to read and has been highly recommended as a book for a comprehensive understanding of abuse.

“In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.” ~ Amazon

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Books to Avoid

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Books to Avoid

As a trauma-informed therapist, these are books I cannot support or endorse in good conscience.

Many of these books:

  • are not edifying in seeking a healthy intimacy

  • overlook accountability necessary in abuse recovery

  • dismiss the power of sanctification in overcoming addictions and abuse

  • lack a trauma-model perspective

Numerous clients have reported damaging and harmful effects in response to these books and in some cases have reported their abusive circumstances worsened upon reading them.

Here are some books listed below that we DO NOT recommend reading:

Every Man’s Battle (any edition, any version) by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs

When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse

When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse

“Whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. Discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing.” ~ Amazon

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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

Find help in your emotionally abusive marriage, stop the cycle of destruction, and restore hope for the future.

This book will help a person identify damaging behaviors, learn how to respond wisely, stay safe, and contemplate when it may be time to leave an abusive marriage. With biblical application of how to establish appropriate boundaries, this book will also encourage the reader that God sees and hates what is happening to you.

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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

This book helps women identify when they are being controlled, devalued, and abused. It helps them to understand how abusive men think and how to get free from abusive, oppressive relationships. In this book you will learn:

• “The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely” ~ Amazon

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The Well-Armored Child: A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Sexual Abuse

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The Well-Armored Child: A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Sexual Abuse

A wonderful resource for parents to raise awareness and prevention of sexual abuse. The Well-Armored Child is an easy-read and offers practical guidance; bringing to light subtleties in grooming tactics predators use, highlighting how institutions may cover up abuse, and tips for being an ally to victims while empowering them without shame or fear.

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BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, HOW TO SAY NO TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

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BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, HOW TO SAY NO TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

In this book the authors outline 10 laws of boundaries while giving you biblically based answers on how to set appropriate boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, coworkers, and even yourself. 

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