Marriage / Relationship

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The Great Sex Rescue

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The Great Sex Rescue

I’ve seen many clients find healing through the corrective messages in this book. There were even misbeliefs and misconceptions I grew up believing that made me stop in my tracks when reading. ⁣
Sheila, Rebecca, & Joanna’s research of over 20,000 women backs up their theory that the evangelical church has, with no intention to harm, spread some harmful messages about sexuality over time. Especially in best-selling Christian books.
⁣The Great Sex Rescue highlights and refutes harmful messages while underscoring a healthy, sacred, biblical sexuality. ⁣I couldn’t recommend this book more! ⁣

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Books to Avoid

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Books to Avoid

As a trauma-informed therapist, these are books I cannot support or endorse in good conscience.

Many of these books:

  • are not edifying in seeking a healthy intimacy

  • overlook accountability necessary in abuse recovery

  • dismiss the power of sanctification in overcoming addictions and abuse

  • lack a trauma-model perspective

Numerous clients have reported damaging and harmful effects in response to these books and in some cases have reported their abusive circumstances worsened upon reading them.

Here are some books listed below that we DO NOT recommend reading:

Every Man’s Battle (any edition, any version) by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs

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Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

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Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

Our culture is steeped in pornography and the sexual exploitation of women. It changes the way we view human beings, sexuality, their value, and the nature of relationships. This book will unpack the impact of pornography on the brain and discusses what can be done about it. Viewing pornography impedes healthy intimacy and attachment.

“Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.” ~Amazon

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THE SCIENCE OF TRUST: EMOTIONAL ATTUNEMENT FOR COUPLES

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THE SCIENCE OF TRUST: EMOTIONAL ATTUNEMENT FOR COUPLES

Dr. John Gottman presents a new approach to understanding and working with couples: as he educates the reader on a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement”. Dr. Gottman teaches couples to “cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient.” 

This book is a crucial follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic and is a great tool for not only couples but therapists and counselors. 

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THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK

THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK

EXCELLENT book about how to repair, strengthen, and guide your marriage into a long-lasting, harmonious relationship. A highly recommended read for engaged couples or those in pre-marital counseling! John Gottman is one of the nation’s leading relational experts in the field of psychology today. His ground-breaking research has created these principles that will teach couples new approaches for how to resolve conflicts and achieve higher levels of intimacy. 

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Spanish edition

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THE RELATIONSHIP CURE: A 5 STEP GUIDE TO STRENGTHENING YOUR MARRIAGE, FAMILY, AND FRIENDSHIPS

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THE RELATIONSHIP CURE: A 5 STEP GUIDE TO STRENGTHENING YOUR MARRIAGE, FAMILY, AND FRIENDSHIPS

Psychologist John Gottman gives an insightful five-step program, based on his twenty years of innovative research, educating the reader how to enhance all relationships in your life; spouses, children, siblings and even co-workers. This book includes questionnaires and exercises Dr. Gottman has developed in his therapy.

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BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, HOW TO SAY NO TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

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BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, HOW TO SAY NO TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

In this book the authors outline 10 laws of boundaries while giving you biblically based answers on how to set appropriate boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, coworkers, and even yourself. 

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